Tuesday, 26 August 2008

Much Needed Break

Hello guys, hope y'all are keeping well (yea yea went to yankee for 5 days and now am saying y'all...lmao!). Yes o, I went for a short break in Maryland/DC and met the delectable Abbie. She's such a lovely person and I dont mean to sound patronising but frankly its refreshing to know people like her still exists. My good time started with her, she bought me lunch and showed me some lovely shops for me to do my shopping. This was all in Maryland and on Friday I hooked up with an old friend in DC who I hadn't seen in six years. I dont know how they do it in Yankee but this dude was so generous to the point that he paid for me to stay at the 5* Grand Hyatt, organised for us to go on a cruise and took me to the Baltimore Aquarium. Such magnanimity astounds me especially when it comes from someone not expecting anything back.

One of the highlights of my trip occurred in Baltimore. We had parked like a mile away from the aquarium as we didnt really know where it was. We had to leg it to the place and while walking his eyes caught what he thought was yoruba language written on a stone slab buried into the ground. He called my attention to it and alas it turned out to be the most shocking discovery. See for yourself!



The translation is this;





My only thinking is that this was carved into the grounds built by our forefathers who were taken as slaves. There were other languages such as Chinese and Arabic I think. He tried to explain to me that Baltimore is historically known to be a town where slaves where taken to when they were shipped off Africa. Does anyone know anything about this?

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On a lighter note, everyday I have reasons to believe that men are indeed from mars. I think I blogged about how my ex's best friend was asking me out and I told him to get stuffed. Well one of his chatting lines was that he had spoken to my ex and he agreed to him asking me out. Of course I found this ridiculous believing that my ex would never agree to such a thing seeing as he was my first and bla bla bla. In fact a while ago we were discussing getting back together but for the fact that he went to take this Charity job that made it frustrating to communicate so we forgot about that. You can imagine my surprise when his dear old friend told me he had given his go ahead for us to date. Fuming I waited patiently until he was out of the bush that he normally goes to work and after like over 6 weeks of waiting I finally was able to contact him. So I asked him if truly he had given his friends his blessing for us to date and he said well he cant strictly say that but he did tell his friend that if he was interested in me he could go ahead.

By now I was reeling from the shock of his revelation and wondered what he took me for. He tried to placate me and said the reason he said that was because it was not his place to decide who I now like no matter how special things were between us. He then gave me an analogy that if a master had taken his time to look after a dog from when it was a puppy and they had formed a bond and become almost inseparable. Then someone comes along and decides to take the dog from the master he said the natural thing the dog will do is bite and fight the intruder away. In a nutshell he expected me to say NO to his friend but he would not prevent his friend from asking me out. Obviously he was happy that I told his friend where to go but I just cant help but wonder at how men really think. I mean its totally abnormal. A friend of mine cant come to me and says she fancies my ex however long ago it was and I'll say to her to go ahead. Even though I may not mind them dating obviously cos I would have moved on, I will never give her the impression that I don't mind. Anyway I just find it rather funny.

Need to do my blog rounds now guys and it does feel nice to be back to my routine! Have a good week.

44 comments:

bumight said...

yeha, Bmore is famous for being a slave port. hope you had fun.

I'm not even going to hope that I'm first...

Parakeet said...

Bumight that's explains it then...and oh yes u're first!

mizchif said...

I'm jealous!!!

Hope you had fun tho.

Guys will always be guys, @ least this one had sense to wait 5 yrs after u'd broken up, i've experienced worse.

Parakeet said...

Dont be jealous...I'll take you with me next time. As per guys, I just dont know sha. If they mean well it would probably be another thing but usually they just wanna play!

geisha.song. said...

wow... the journey our elders took.
wow.
thats amazing

Sha said...

i'm jealous oh. u didnt take me with u :(

the font size is too small oh.. haba some of us nor dey wear goggles nah.:)

Parakeet said...

@ Geisha...yea. Isn't it awesome?
@Sha, dont be jealous o...will send you a ticket next time lol! Sorry abt the font.

Naija Idol said...

sounds like u had a gr8 time. Dunno a thing bout baltimore. never been there.

I really wonder how men think. its amazing.

Afrobabe said...

Whattttt??? I am not first???

Afrobabe said...

Men are really silly oh, you just knowing...maybe its the lack of oxygen and water in mars???

Parakeet said...

@Nija idol...oh yea I did. Thanks and aint men something?
@Afro...me sef don dey popular. You cant be first lol! Trust you to pump some humour into a post!

Funms said...

i want to go to baltimore too!!!!! u should ve taken me with u... lol....
Guys r so unpredictable and even his best friend is full of nerves o... dont they hve a guy code or sumthing, about not dating each other's ex?????????

Ms Sula said...

Well, I'll be the odd woman out here... But if a friend of mine wants to date my ex, I actually don't see any problems. The idea behind an ex is that we are broken up... So if one more person can be happy so be it.

Ok maybe I'm from Mars too. :)

Hope you had fun on your trip.

Sting said...

So that was u Abbie had on her blog. Niceeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!

Jaycee said...

Wow @ the Yoruba inscription. I hhave heard the story of slaves in the Baltimore harbor before...

Abbie said...

Oh sweets, it was an absolute pleasure meeting you as well, thanks for your kind words.

I know about B-more being one of the biggest slave ports and have beent here several times but never noticed that little sign. Precious!

About your ex, that's a tactless thing he did. I'm just waiting for one of your male readers to come explain some sense into his thinking. lol

Abbie said...

You can delete this comment after you read it, why do you moderate your comments? Just curious.

Parakeet said...

@Funms…I better start saving up o or just simply play the lottery for all you people who wanna go Baltimore with me. Hahaha! As for guys, na dem sabi
@Ms Sula…actually you're not from Mars. I wouldn’t care mush if my friend wanted to date my ex but surely I wont give her the impression its an ok thing to do. If she talks to me about it first, I'll let her know I don’t approve but wont be in her way. The problem here is that we were all very close. I used to go over to lag then to cook for them and we painted the town red going to all dem inexcess and ABC club parties with his ex girlfriend too. There's too much history there for him to just ask me out now just cos we both find ourselves in London!
@Sting…that was me alright. Did you notice how ordinary I looked compared to the supermodel Abbie!
@Jaycee…You needed to see the sort of mixed feelings I had and how many wows I said…it was awesome!
@Abbie…That inscription I found was a discovery indeed! As per the ex, well I would never know. Hopefully some guys can offer better explanations although I did speak to a male friend about it and he said he would have done the same. He said his friend should have more sense not to go near his girl whether present or ex. Gross! As per moderating my comments, call it selfishness but I like to read the comments first. Other thing is to weed out the haters not that I've had any so far but one can never be too careful. Hope you are keeping well!

kmplx said...

please, bring on pluto - i would be extremely offended that a guy (whether ex's friend or not) interested in me, would ask my ex's permission before approaching me. he ain't ma daddy!
nice post!

La Reine said...

Yeah, it definitely was a slave port.

-Sounds like you have a blast.

Free-flowing Florida said...

wow @ d yoruba inscription. am sure u were knocked over by it. i don't know much abt d history of slavery - i find movies on dem distasteful cos i get all worked up against white pple cos of dem. i even tried 2 read it up on d internet & found it evoked d same emotions n me as well.

as 4 ur ex, i've been faced wit situations as dat a couple of times. well, maybe they ddnt encourage anyone 2 date me, but they were all 4 me desiring 2 date another person after dem!!!!! it puzzled me severally, den i decided 2 put it down 2 dem never really caring 4 me dat deeply.

nice 2 know u had fun & yes, it does sound like mega fun!!!!!!!!!

Afronuts said...

interesting discovery. But i wonder who engraved that piece on oyinbo man's land...must be an african.

How've u been Ollay?

aloted said...

glad to hear u had fun in the states...Abbie already gave us the lowdown and pictures sef ;)

Nawa for ur ex and his friend o...men sha...they can never see to amaze me!!!

tankojjetty said...

Okay
2nd Guy in...
i dont think there's anything wrong in ur Ex giving the guy permission...
he's your ex, hello...

there's a guy code...u never date my sis or anyone close to home...

there's nothing in it that says "Never date your Ex boyfriend's babe"

the prob really is that you still see him as your exboyfriend's friend...

he's the guy who prolly really liked u...

happens a lot

(¯`·._.·[***Fresh&Fab***]·._.·´¯) said...

wow thats fantastic..glad u had a gr8 time

i need to visit America one of these days, i have to

have a nice week

Rita Esuru Okoroafor said...

I think ex was trying to form hard man when he said his best friend should try. He might have been very hurt if you accepted or told himself "maybe she's not worth it afterall".

Guys!!!

Jarrai said...

I am so jealous...you are enjoying in maryland...have fun babe

Men are indeed from mars...i have given up trying to understand them, it justs gives me a headache..

doll said...

WOW@ the inscription.

As per the whole ex thingy. If my friend asked me if it was ok to date my ex i will be pissed. I mean why ask me, he is my ex do wat u like with him honey. iv moved on

So if i were in ur shoes i'l be pissed at this guy in question and my ex

Standtall said...

Hmmm. Abbie blogged abt ur outting. U looked fab!!!

That is a yoruba languaga aiight. We don see wen for this world o.

And abt ur ex, well. It will hurt him if u agree to date the guy. He's just forming

rethots said...

'Iri ajo ti awon agba wa rin' (oops, i spiced it up), why do i feel in this case (with your ex) it has reference to the above quote. As in, (maybe, he meant) you too you want to walk (go out with my ex) the walk abi? Go ahead. (you tactless guy, you have the gods to ask me. No problem, i know the answer you'll get).

@funms, well, i think there's an unspoken code but, guess it works best when the two in question are 'friends'.

Shubby Doo said...

I'm really tripped at the yoruba writing on the pavement slab...amazing!

Buttercup said...

glad u had fun with abbie..

wow, i felt somn seein that slab..amazin..

hmmmm im not one to talk bout this whole ex issue cos i dated my cousin's ex yrs after they broke up..so yea....

Kin'shar said...

Hey you didnt come and visit me....ABBEY GETS ALL THE ATTENTION...LOL

Shubby Doo said...

i updated sweetie

NikkiSab said...

wow...dats so cool but sad to hear dat it was a slave port. :-(

LG said...

na wa o, see igbadun *grins*
glad u had a swell time xcept 4 d slave port, baltimore sounds nice

Esmeralda said...

Parakeet, i'm jealous o, all this hook-ups u've been having with bloggers ehn? and then u are just gallivanting all over the globe ... (US is the globe na)lol

so we are def hooking up when u come home.

that ur friend is just too cool for school, can i have him? lol

i've been asked once if i'd mind someone dating my ex, and i said i didnt... but she wasnt my best friend , so no shit.

the baltimore bit... good info girl, never knew.

NigerianDramaQueen said...

See the way your globe-trotting..Maryland/D.C for just 5days? I wanna be on your level!
Glad you got a chance to rest! That inscription is amazing! Next time im in that area I'm gonna make a point of looking for that.
As for men-i'm done tryna figure them out. Completely done.
Next time your in the U.S, you need to call a sister!

Parakeet said...

@Kmplx...lol at bringing on Pluto...men can be silly sometimes really! Thanks for the comment.
@La reine...am not suprised cos of the port. Nice seeing u around again.
@Flo...am with u on that. I find slavery novels or movie rather distasteful but I must say I love Robinson Crusoe. As per men, I think its just better to take the back seat, watch and pray!
@Afronuts...I wonder the same o but I suspects the grave did and then it was renewed over the years to preserve the heritage.
@Aloted...thanks o. Abbie is so adorable! Men are just something else
@Tankojetty...there's some truth in what you said
@F&F...Yea. I think America is cool cos there are so many wonderful places you can see. Its the only place I get to go on hols!
@Rita...Oh yes Rita. He told me he was not happy but didnt want to give his friend that impression. He was trying to be a man I guess.
@Jarrai...I'm back o, no more enjoyment. I need to go back. As for men, me and you both o!
@Doll...I guess that's the natural reaction.
@Standtall...yea I saw Abbie's post now everyone in blogville knows what parakeet looks like, lol! As for my ex, surely he would have been so hurt cos he told me he was glad that I didnt accept to go out with his friend.
@Re-thots...Hmm, you're making me think now.
@Shubs...same here o.
@Buttercup...I really dont have a problem with a friend dating my ex as long as there's been sometime between it and she doesnt come to ask for my permission.
@Kinshar...Aww...sorry darl. Next time, lol!
@Nikkisab...me too
@LG...na real igabdun. If I saw Abbie for longer than I did I would have come back 2 sizes bigger.
@Esmeralda...dont be jealous my dear, I'll def see you when I come home. As per my friend, unfortunately he's taken. You're too late. Hahaha!
@NDQ...globe trotting indeed. Wish I had more time to spend but had to go back to work. Expect my call when next am around. You may wish to drop me a line at bolyk@yahoo.co.uk. Cheers my dears!

Standtall said...

Parakeet looks cool, beauuuuuuuuuuuu tiiiiiiiiifulllllllllllllll

Parakeet said...

Aww...thanks standtall

wendie said...

your ex and his friend are stupid birds of the same feather parakeeting together...you are swell girl
Irin ti awon Baba wa ti rin

Hunter girl said...

what can i say hon, men are pigs, dogs, fools, idots...the list goes on take your pick.....!!!

Anonymous said...

You are not alone, just the way your eyes got a glimpse of that inscription, same thing happened to me today, I had to reverse back my legs and read it closely, it was really amazing, I actually came online to search if I could see anything about it and saw this blog.