Mother Daughter Talk

This is my first proper post in over a month I guess and there's so much to talk about but I'll try to keep it concise.

First shall I tackle the curiousity about Enigma, he may not appreciate this but it has to be done. Some people are asking how I knew it was him and what I mean by he's tight. Enigma and I have a mutual friend who had told me before that he had another friend who was also a blogger. So it was our mutual friend's bday bash this weekend and Enigma and I got introduced and the rest is history. When I say he's tight I mean his pseudonym is befitting of him. He may not have the conventional Will Smith look but he does have a presence you cant ignore and he carries himself immaculately. So to me that is tight...I hope I've laid all that curiousity to rest. And Enigma no vex for putting you out there like this.

Back to today's post....

Mum: Temidayo you know you're five years old and no longer a baby
Temi: Oh no mum, what have I done again?
Mum: You haven't done anything my dear. I just need to speak to you about something very important.
Temi: As long as its not about me not tying my shoe lace properly
Mum: You naughty girl...ehm how do I even start.
Temi: From the middle
Mum: (sighs)...ehm I want to talk to you about men and women
Temi: What about them?
Mum: You see there will come a time when you will have your own little Temi
Temi: (Tantrums) but mum I'm just a baby
Mum: (Looking worried)...I know my dear. I'm just trying to prepare your mind
Temi: My mind for what...?
Mum: Okay maybe this is not a good time, I'll talk to you later
Temi: (Now upset) but mum I wanna know now.
Phone rings, mum picks call...life saver...end of story.

How do you broach the topic of sex with a 5year old? They are proposing sex education in Britain's secondary schools and perhaps to primary school pupils as well who could be as young as 5. There's been debates whether it is safe or not to start with kids that young. How do you even begin to teach sex, love and relationship to someone as young as that. Admittedly I liked a boy as the tender age of 7 but it was just 'like' and he was much older so all I wanted him to do was read to me and take me for walks. Sex never crossed my mind and I remember vividly being highly embarrassed when we were watching soaps that depicted couples kissing. Even at that age I knew it was not something meant for a girl my age.

While I feel sex education is great I believe introducing it to children as young as 5 is too early. By God they have not even reached puberty yet so why not wait until then to explain the changes in their bodies and relate that to sex, marriage and love? That's my opinion but what do you guys think? Should children be taught sex, love and relationship education from the age of 5?

Enjoy your week.

Hi Everyone

Just to say many thanks to all that have been checking up on me. I am doing great just a little busy with the things of life I guess. 

So keep your mind at rest dearest bloggers and know that Parakeet is fine wherever she is. Have a blessed week everyone.

P.S.

Guess who I met on one of my night crawling??? Enigma and he's tight!

The Farce of Modern Governance

So George Bush is imploring American tax payers to shell out more money to offset the financial crisis caused by a greedy few? Who are those greedy few? Did he mean to say myself, my govt and the big corporations? Because if he said that he wont be further from the truth. I am sick and tired of people solely dumping the downturn of the capital market at the doorstep of bankers. These people were just instruments of greed used by government and big corporation to grab capital that was then used to fight Iraq war and used to buy up smaller companies just to face off competition within the market. Take the advertising industry for instance, there are only 7 major companies in the world who own a network of other companies. So it could be said that these giants basically control the advertising revenues of the developed nations and some notable developing countries like India and Nigeria. The banks have to make this funds available to them but they try to make us believe they are doing it for us. If we don’t give this people money to run businesses then you may not be able to buy that cheap item of clothing or furniture which is a total lie.

Mass production made it possible for people to develop false needs. If these manufacturers did not manufacture these things and then engineered our minds to make us believe we need them then we'd only be a people who used what we really needed, namely clothing, food and shelter. I am not about to slate technology because mobile phones and automobiles are a great invention but who really needs a touch sensitive phone for instance? Hello! I've got fingers and they're not broken. Or a car where I could watch TV when my attention should really be on the road and I can go back home and watch TV on a better screen. They even managed to make us believe we need HDTV so that we can see the wrinkles in Ellen Degenres' face. Better picture they call it but why don’t you just give me a slap on my face and ask me to hand over my money. We now live in a world where success is judged on ones material possession and the likes of Victoria Beckham can go to the newspaper and say my perfume empire is worth £109million. Looks like that's really news these days. Now Russia wants to go claim ownership of some part of the Antarctic…money money money and now the whole world is crumbling just because there is less of it in circulation. How could man become such a servant to what it made? I didn’t hear God say when he finished creation that go and be servants to the animals…I thought it read go and have dominion over the animals and the things of the world.

By all means if Americans are happy to bail out the banks it will be the way to go but will the government act this time? Will they ensure that legislation is put in place to protect people more, that banks do not give credit to those who clearly cannot pay and those hedge fund people stop making greedy deals? I am not an economist and I don’t know how these things work but I know that the government sat on their butts the whole time lapping up the glory that comes from a perceived economic buoyancy when in fact the whole thing was built on a farce. God just look at it, who thought Lehman Bros could fall? Anyway this is where the rant stops but I just hope that these morons in government will learn a vital lesson here that greed can bring you money only for a short period but will probably wreak more havoc than they can handle.

Have a wonderful week!

Trouble Sleep Yanga Go Wake Am

That is what our people in Nigeria say in Pidgin English when one decides to go look for trouble by perhaps doing a stupid thing. In this case trouble was taking a stroll away and I decided to go and tap it by the shoulders.

How did it start? Well I found my old address book from Nigeria. This is not a joke but the number of complimentary cards I found was enough to make a paper machie house. Most girls in Nija will testify to this, when you go out you are bound to meet some big man somewhere who's looking for a fresh blood to devour. Often they are rich, married, way older than you and with bellies bigger than that of a 9 months pregnant woman. But somehow back in the days it shows some sort of street smart pride when your wallet is adorned by complimentary cards of Senators or oil boys even if you don't really take them as Aristos. I had a few good ones myself and I found one of such ones in my stash of complimentary cards. Now the man in question is not exactly top notch but he worked for Chevron and your girl was trying to get into the company then. So I pallied him up only that he wanted more than I could give so I severed our friendship and kissed goodbye to the Chevron job he was going to help me with.

Fast forward 6 years yours truly decided to give him a buzz having found his card but I didn't know I was setting myself up for trouble. The buzz was just to say hi o...now I know why they say that an idle mind is the devils works shop. He remembered me quite alright and we chatted about a few things here and there asked for my number which I gave to him thinking he'd never call anyway. Now that mistake is almost costing me my sanity now. Man refuse to back down on his calls o. He basically intends to blow up my phone and he's driving me outta my mind. He even said that he's coming to London next month to see me. See me see wahala, ki la gbe, ki le ju? (I dont know the translation to that one, that's some Yoruba slang). Anywhoos at that point I knew I had to act so I told him that seeing him will be tough o cos I live with my partner. He went into a stony silence and then suddenly exclamated, "you live with a man?!" I was like shoo, since when did that become a crime but I forgot that those things are frowned upon in Nigeria. Only that was not the reason for his shock, the real reason was that because I called him he felt that I wanted us to be an item. I mean from where to where? For all I care this man could have gone grey and I could have become yokozuna in the 6 years we haven't seen. Why would a 2 minute call to you suggest that I want to shag you on your next trip to London? If I didn't have anything to do with you sexually then, why would I do now? It still irks me that he even thought along those lines at all and I'm really wondering at the state of men/women affairs in Nigeria. Frankly I don't find it funny and I dont think its proper at all. Hopefully that will put him off ever calling me again.

Really men are wired differently but at least now I've learnt my lessons. When next I see trouble, I'll take the back road. I siddon look...

For Friends

This goes out to my dear friend, Ruvimbo. We met 5 years ago at the criminal law class in undergrad, we hit it off immediately and people wondered whether we were sisters. Problem was our accents gave us away, she's from Zim and I from Nig but the bond was formed. We've been through a lot together and we never stopped talking about our numerous relationship problems and our career plans.

We hardly saw each other but kept in touch via phone and we held such important places in each others heart. Her sojourn in the UK is over for now and she's moving on to bigger and greater things in SA. My heart and prayers go with her while I'll physically miss her. Ruvimbo you've been more than a friend and I love you so much. I am so glad I have this opportunity to organise a leaving do for you and am glad we'll be spending your last few days in the UK together. 

P.S.
Everyone in blogville you've been a pillar for me. I've not had much chance to do my blog rounds but I'll get to it soon.

Love to all!

24 Hour Miracle

I just want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for your support during my down time. I feel so blessed having you all to support and I am sure you will be rejoicing with me now that my respite has come. My psyche experienced a turn around in 24 hours and it is a miracle indeed for instead of being emotionally drained and unhappy, I am leaping in joyfulness. I got a news which for many may be considered bad news but in truth it was good news. The person I received the news about is the singular reason I hadn't made much progress in a certain part of my life for the last 2 years and I am glad that I am now free of that bondage.

My facebook status now reads God's WAY may not be the OBVIOUS way but it is ALWAYS the BEST way and instead of singing Brandy's Almost Doesn't Count, I'm now singing My Life is in Your Hands by Kirk Franklin

You don't have to worry

And don't you be afraid

Joy comes in the morning

Trouble they don't last always

For there's a friend in Jesus

Who will wipe your tears away

And if your heart is broken

Just lift your hands and say

Oh I know that I can make it

I know that I can stand

No matter what may come my way

My life is in your hands

With Jesus I can take it

With him I know I can stand

No matter what may come my way

My life is in yours

So when your test and trials

They seem to weigh you down

And all your friends and loved ones

Are no where to be found

Remember there's a friend in Jesus

Who will wipe your tears away

And if your heart is broken

Just lift your hands and say

Oh I know that I can make it

I know that I can stand

No matter what may come my way

My life is in your hands

With Jesus I can take it

With him I know I can stand

No matter what may come my way

My life is in yours

Have a good and blessed week everyone and please participate in the poll I put up. Mucho Gracias!

Feeling Blue

Yea...I've been feeling uncharacteristically melancholic...too many emotions running amok and and I have a lot rummaging through my thoughts. I cant narrow them down to something in particular. I hate this feeling and to make matters worse a lot of sad love songs have been playing in my head but this feelings go beyond love. It definitely has to do with much more than that. I am a Christian but yesterday I felt like seeing a clairvoyant, a palm reader or anything, anyone just for a quick fix answer.

I feel like I'm involved in some sort of waiting game, what for I dont have a tiny clue and at this point am singing Brandy's Almost Doesn't Count

Almost made you love me
Almost made you cry
Almost made you happy, baby
Didn't I didn't I
You almost had me thinkin'
You were turned around
But everybody knows
Almost doesn't count

Almost heard you saying
You were finally free
What was always missing for you, baby
You'd found it in me
But you can't get to heaven
Half off the ground
Everybody knows
Almost doesn't count

I can't keep on lovin' you
One foot outside the door
I hear a funny hesitation
Of a heart that's never really sure
Can't keep on tryin'
If you're looking for more
Than all that I could give you
Than what you came here for

Gonna find me somebody
Not afraid to let go
Want a no doubt be there kind of man
You came real close
But everytime you built me up
You only let me down
And everybody knows
Almost doesn't count

Maybe you'll be sorry
Maybe you'll be cold
Maybe you'll come runnin' back, baby
From the cruel cruel world
Almost convince me
You're gonna stick around
But everybody knows
Almost doesn't count

So maybe I'll be here
Maybe I'll see ya 'round
That's the way it goes
Almost doesn't count

Almost doesn't count...for love, career, family, everything...and right now, I feel all am getting is almost.

When will the fullness come?